I know you must feel guilt or shame at times. We all do. The more we have been hurt, unseen, or unloved, mostly by ourselves, the more easily guilt or shame will find us. Once they have, the more desperately they will want to stay with us. Simply because they have nowhere else to go.Read more
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Don’t let the education system -or anyone, for that matter- define your intelligence. They have no clue how to measure it. There are many forms of intelligence. Your teachers are told to look for only one, which is basically: the amount of data you can reproduce, times the speed you can do this at. SchoolsRead more
Living cannot be done through desk research. You can only truly experience life through experiencing life. So give yourself as many real experiences as humanly possible. Especially when in doubt, scared, or unsure, leap into something new. Not because of an end goal, but simply because of what can be found in the new experienceRead more
This is my grandfather’s mother. My father’s grandmother. I never knew her and neither have you. But I can feel her presence sometimes. Everytime I walk into a room, she is right behind me, just like all of our ancestors. Even if you cannot see or feel their presence, know that they are here. InRead more
I’m sorry for when I was too little or too much. I’m sorry for all the times I did not see you, when I was too self-involved or not present enough. I’m sorry for the times I didn’t listen well enough. I’m sorry for when I listened, but still couldn’t hear you. I’m sorry forRead more
When you were two years old, you asked me: ‘Mummy, where is my place?’ Intuitively, I answered: ‘Your place is everywhere.’ Because it is. Your place is not the space that remains when everyone else has taken theirs. It’s not the little corner where you will get in no-one’s way. It’s not where you canRead more
I love you deeply. I do. I’ve tried to show you every day, and I’ll continue to do so for as long as I can, but in case you ever need to be reminded: I will love you from your first breath until my last, straight into infinity. These words — YOU ARE LOVED —areRead more
Don’t stay because you’re afraid of hurting someone. You will. Even if you stay. Don’t leave because you’re afraid of getting hurt. You will. Even if you leave. The thing is, if you stay because you’re afraid of hurting someone, you may hurt yourself and the other person so much more than if you don’t. Because youRead more
You cannot make anyone happy. Don’t let another person depend on you to make them happy, to make them feel good about themselves, to fulfill them, to heal them, or to rescue them. The only person capable of doing that is them. What you can do is listen to them, cheer them on, ask themRead more